[ Family ] Open Question : My sister's boyfriend freaked out on me for telling her bad news while on vacation...?

What should I think of this guy? My Grandma passed away yesterday; we are a very close family so when my father told me Grandma passed away and asked me to inform my two older sisters it wasn't a matter of if I should tell them now or later, it was how I should tell them. I called my oldest sister who is almost 30 who has been on a like month vacation with her boyfriend of 6 months who travels for his job. She failed to answer so I left a message telling her to call me ASAP. She called back within an hour and was having a great time on their vacation and they were just getting ready to board a cruise to the Bahamas. I told her (my Mom's words as well) that Grandma had passed away and she will be cremated so there is no need to cancel their cruise because the service wouldn't be for a week or two and there is nothing they can do here. She started crying and in an instant her boyfriend took the phone, I re-explained the situation and was expecting him to say how sorry he was about the family's loss, instead he started to yell at me about whose idea it was to tell Jane (not her real name). I was in shock; I said what do you mean? He continued to raise his voice and said "WHOSE IDEA WAS IT TO TELL JANE TODAY?" He continued to yell at me and ask me if it was MY idea or my Mom's. I said what the F are you talking about? It was my idea, my Mom's idea, my Dad's idea, it was everyone's idea, and no one even had the thought not to tell her. I asked him if he would have liked me to wait to tell her and he said yes, he would have liked me to wait four day's before I said anything (my guess is that is how long the cruise is) and I said are you F-ing kidding me? And he said that he has never seen Jane so happy and now she is balling and basically the vacation/cruise is ruined. I flew off the handle and sarcastically apologized for ruining his vacation and said how sorry I was that my Grandma died at an inconvenient time for him. We yelled back and forth for awhile until he hung up on me. After a few minutes he called back about 5 times without me answering. He left a message after one of the missed calls apologizing for his reaction. He said he just saw his new fiance crying and flipped out. At this time I had no idea they were engaged, I found out on his voice mail. (He asked me awhile back what I would think if he asked Jane to marry him while on their vacation and I said it was too soon, they have only been together for 6 months, my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years so I imagine he thought I said that out of jealously) He asked if I would set my feeling aside and call them back so they knew if they needed to get off the cruise before it left. I called back without letting him talk to me and said they should stay on the cruise, that the service wouldn?t be for at least a week and that I didn?t wish to talk to him right now. I then hung up on him and he proceeded to send me text messages. I told him he could call my Mom if he wanted more information and he did. My Mom then talked to me after talking with him and she told me he told her that he was sorry for what happened and he didn?t really understand the situation and it was really hard to hear what was going on. (Really, come on man, I didn't buy it) So basically I now feel nothing but hatred for him, I am sickened that he and my sister are engaged. I can?t find any reason someone should have reacted the way he did and I can?t stop thinking about it. I can?t see ever forgiving him. I hate him for making me feel mad right now when I should be mourning my Grandma?s death. I don?t think I have ever been that mad in my entire life. I called my other sister and told her the whole story and she is just as mad if not more then I am as well as her husband and my boyfriend. My Mom asked me what happened a few times before I would tell her but once I did she was trying to find reasons why he reacted the way he did. My other sister also brought up the point of Facebook, within 12 hours one of my relatives already had it posted. Better to find out from me then Facebook right? So anyway I just don?t know how I will ever forgive this guy, all I feel right now is hatred, I have never been treated like that in my life and I just can?t imagine how he is treating my sister and how I can stand idly by and watch him marry into my family. Any advice? I just get this feeling like he is the type of guy to hit his wife in the face and then apologize like crazy. I have a feeling there is something not right with him, am I over reacting? I barely know the guy and now I can?t stand him. My sister and I are going to do a background check on him too, any suggestions on a good website as well?

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