[ Marriage & Divorce ] Open Question : Men and Women over 30! Should I feel ashamed for wanting to leave a relationship with children involved?
I really don't want to be with her for right now. I want to still date other women. I'm buying a house next month. 3 bedroom 2 bath. it's very nice enough for me and my family. the problem with me is I haven't fully grown up yet. And I know this. I have an urge from deep down inside of me that wants to still date other women. So I've told my baby mother that I want to move out and do my thing for a year or two. My kids are 2yrs old and 1 week(just had a newborn little girl). And after a yr or two yrs. My family can move in with me. My problem is, I feel that I will have regrets and never become fully happy unless I get this player mode out of my system 100%. I'm giving her 500 a month for support. I just want to take my life in another direction. I love my kids, but honestly. I just don't love my baby moms at all. The only reason we still together is because of our kids But they're little now. So my plan is to fulfill this burning desire to fulfill this playa need i have inside of me, And If she doesn't want to be together after that, and find someone else. I'm fine with that. I will continue to be there for my kids and offer financial support for them. Because I feel that I will have lots of regrets if I don't let it out now. Even though I don't love her. I can continue in a relationship with her and be there for my children before they get older.. If not. Then oh well. I can meet another woman and start over. It's Her call? Let me live my life the way I see it. Or be miserable dating a woman because we have children. When I told her this. She was upset and said "how are you gonna leave your family." I said i'm not leaving them. Just you for now. She goes what about my emotional support, and the children getting on my nerves, I need you in my life to raise these kids as a family. I feel bad because It's more than money it seems. She needs me there. But I don't want to stick around. Things are getting tougher. She just lost her job and our free babysitter we've had, has discontinued watching our children due to an argument. I feel so stuck. Im thinking just to stay in this relationship to benefit my family and children and forget about my feelings, love isn't important right? It's not about me anymore. Do you think this is the best decision for me?
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